Wise Parenting (A Child’s Castle)


The transition to parenthood and family is so difficult for children.

Nevertheless,

a child has a love for his parents that can overcome everything.

A child is born into a family of parents.

To a child, parents are the whole world.

To a child, parents are love.

So the child wants to be part of the family.

Wise Parenting (Child’s Castle)

Parents grow with their children.

Parents suffer with their children.

The parent’s (cold) sweat makes the child afraid of being punished,

Parental (play) sweat makes the child joyful and happy.

Parental tears make the child sweat,

Parental anger makes the child sweat.

The child builds a castle every day.

A castle to fight robots with dad

A castle to play princess with mom

They build strong castles to protect themselves from attack.

Whether all these castles become stronger, more solid castles,

or a sand castle, is up to the parents.

I am very sensitive to the feelings of others.

I’m not easily moved or swayed by other people’s emotions.

This is sometimes a huge advantage in parenting.

Parenting can be emotionally draining.

You can’t do this or that,

and there are often situations where it’s literally a big party.

When that happens, our hearts sometimes break.

When a parent’s heart breaks, it’s usually a lot of negative emotions.

There is anger, resentment, sadness, depression, and loneliness.

It’s inevitable to have negative emotions from your child.

But it’s not right to take them out on your child.

The child has only been in the world for a few years,

and has a lot of learning to do.

From the moment you decide to make them part of your family.

you have to have the generosity of spirit to see everything.

Think about the moment a couple decides to have a child.

No parent would ever decide to raise a child strictly as a child.

To a child, parents are the whole world.

To a child, parents are love.

Raising children wisely

to raise a child wisely.

Show them cartoons
Showing your child cartoons will give you some free time while you take care of them.

It’s a very efficient and relaxing way of parenting. I want to rest too.

Sometimes you need a win-win situation.

Let’s show cartoons in a pleasant way!!!

I think it’s a good habit to start at a young age…..

Use youtube kids (no ads, which is great)

You can set only the selected subscription channels to show.

You can set a time limit.

Decide on a treat day
Treats like sweets, chocolate, and ice cream are very tempting.

Even if they’re eating on the go, when a treat appears, their attention span is at its peak and they’ll sit down and devour it.

It’s clear that he has a snack tummy.

Let’s make treats feel good!

Eating 7 sweets every day for a week versus 1 sweets every day for a week.

The teeth of those who ate a little bit every day were found to be more decayed.

In one Nordic country, children have a designated ‘sweets day’ to eat sweets.

☞ So, once a week, every Saturday, they set aside ‘sweets day’.

Children put the sweets they receive on weekdays in a box that they made (see Sweets Box).

☞ Do they eat sweets on weekdays? “We have not changed the principle of buying sweets on treat day,

(Purity ver.) If you don’t keep your promise, the sweets will disappear after you go to bed?

“If you don’t fulfill your promise, the candy will disappear from your stash after you go to bed?”

Win the game
It’s easy to play the weakling and lose a game for your child’s sense of accomplishment.

But you have to win.

There are only so many times you can go out into the world and win.

There is only one big success for every 100 failures.

Have fun beating your child!!!

Praise makes a child dance, victory makes a child happy.

But don’t lose every time

Every game has a rule to follow.

“Great game” handshake after the game, even if you lose.

(Think about the end of any sport)

(I can win because I have a good opponent.)

Wrestle, arm wrestle. Win for about 10 seconds. Do 10 rounds. I win 9 times and lose 1 time.

(I could have won them all, but I lost one… Cast Frustration.)

The child loses 9 times and disassembles. But with one last victory, he feels even more triumphant as he watches his parents disintegrate

and feels a greater sense of victory.

(At a younger age, there was a time when a single loss would end the game with all of the frustration and anger.

Try to persevere)

Make a big deal out of it
You laugh and cry with all your energy at things that seem insignificant to you.

What if they rejoiced with you when you were happy, or mourned with you when you were sad?

Empathize with feelings, not comfort them

One of the few things you remember from your childhood may be a pleasant memory.

Celebrate your child’s emotions!!!

☞ Your child’s first bragging rights!

Whether it’s your child’s own creation or something they’ve learned somewhere, there’s always something to show off to you.

It can range from “wow, that’s amazing” to “awesome”.

And how about adding some gestures to go with those exclamations?

The sangha makes parents dance.

The child takes taekwondo.

The child goes to Taekwondo. He or she is judged in the white belt and, of course, is judged in the yellow belt.

(If the child works hard enough, he or she will be promoted to red belt.)

The child squeezes and shows the yellow belt. Or show it indifferently.

Then, the first dance is the curtain dance. Hug and dance. Play an upbeat song.

I dance my best for five minutes for my diet.

I can’t dance. I’m a terrible singer. It doesn’t matter.

Draw and show a picture of your family.

I can’t recognize the shapes. Who’s the dad, who’s the mom?

It doesn’t matter.

Just make a lot of noise.

Playing at home and hear a “thump.” It’s not a thump. It’s “bean”.

It hurts. It hurts.

Let’s rush over and comfort her and make a big deal about it.

“Pee-pee-pee-pee, where does it hurt, oh, where does it hurt?”

Apply (imaginary) ointment a hundred times, stick (imaginary) band-aids, and repeat ad infinitum.

Before you know it, the pain will disappear and be replaced by laughter.

One word of caution.

Say, “You’re bad for making me sick” and hit the object that made you sick.

(I think this is a really bad way to blame someone.)

(You’re bad for soothing a crying child, I’m going to punish you)

I think this is the worst solution.

Play with books
The most important thing for a child is literacy.

Literacy is also the most important thing for adults.

If you struggle to read, you’ll struggle to read to your child.

It’s harder than you think to read to your child, and it’s easy to become

naturally, they become disengaged from reading. So what can you do?

I found a video of a knee-slapper. “SBS Gifted Discovery Team”

‘This book makes me believe that children can grow up right just by the right behavior of their parents.

‘Let’s start by playing near the library’

It’s not easy for a housebound child to get out of the house.

I lured him out of the house by buying him sweets on snack day, and organized a course to the library.

Here’s what I did

  1. Jongno-gu and Jung-gu: Seoul Station Lotte Mart → Son Ki Jung Children’s Library
  2. Mapo-gu: Sangam-dong Homeplus → Shoulder Dongmu Library

☞ My children are preschoolers. Right now, they just play in the library.

I rarely read books. This space is a fun space.

Sometimes I take out books by myself and read them.

Sometimes I bring books to read to them (simple things).

Most people around me read.

(What they see and feel will become apparent when they are older.)

The child builds a castle every day.

The castle your child builds is a sand castle.

Parents can mix ingredients in the child’s sand castle.

You can mix happiness (=cement) with love (=water)

to make a stronger, more solid castle,

indifference (= salt water) and anger (= twigs).

to create a castle that collapses in the slightest breeze.

I think the relationship between a parent and a child is like a “jumble jumble jumble”.

(In order for a chick to wake up from an egg

the mother chicken pecking outside and the chick pecking inside.

They need to help each other to get the job done.)

Parents study, think, and persevere.

and create a fantastic breathing relationship with your child.

That’s what parents are.

Wise parenting will make the child stronger.